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Mike Sowden's avatar

This was a fun read. Thank you. :)

I think maybe part of it is a misconception about what advice really is. When we're starting out (and by "we" I very much mean "me") there's a tendency to treat advice like a How To manual. But really, it's more like a string of scientific hypotheses. Yes, this thing seemed to work this one time for this one person, but so what? Is it replicable for someone in a very different place in their creative lives? It almost certainly isn't, at least to some degree - in which case it's not universally applicable, and can't be treated like a Law. But - we treat so much stuff like Laws. I still fall into this trap - but I'm better at recognising when something's just an idea that is worth experimenting with but not trusting. Which....is almost every piece of advice online, I guess?

So maybe the only goal is to not quit, and that's also the only piece of universal Law? And I'm not even sure that one is unassailable either: https://www.thisamericanlife.org/7/quitting

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Danique van de Kerkhof's avatar

Stepping away from the usual route to from our own unique path is both thrilling and scary. It sometimes feels like being lost in the thick Brazilian mata [jungle], without any premade trails to guide me.

You're absolutely right; what makes this path special is that there's no one-size-fits-all guide. That what makes it so attractive is that it lets us shape our work to fit us as individuals.

But it also calls for a deep self-awareness. We need to understand ourselves on a profound level to figure out what truly resonates with us and what doesn't.

I've always remembered the saying: "If you don't know your path, others will create a path for you." It serves as a reminder to take moments of stillness, tune into my deeper self, and figure out what I truly desire, rather than following the expectations of others or society.

For me, this journey is all about self-discovery and empowerment, helping me become the person I'm meant to be. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! :)

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